Where does this fear come from?
When we think of being afraid, we think of things like spiders or flying. Or that our children won’t be safe, we’ll forget our house key or miss our bus or worst, we won’t get that pay rise that we are expecting.
These are all valid fears but this doesn’t explain the massive amount of stress that many of us experience in our work.
The stress that arises in the workplace is entirely fear-based.
Fear of not being good enough, of being shown up, of making a mistake, of not being respected by colleagues or receiving blame for something outside our control. We fear that we may let others down. Or worse, that we will let ourselves down and we won’t meet the high expectations we have of ourselves.
So what is this fear about?
What drives us to work so hard and expect so much of ourselves?
All these fears create many of the anxieties experienced in the workplace and it is the related stress responses that produce limiting behaviours – procrastination, avoiding responsibility, blaming and bullying.
How can we be more trustful of ourselves, and of others, so that we lessen the fears that lie behind these negative behaviours?
In the book; “The Fear Cure: Cultivating Courage as Medicine for the Body, Mind, and Soul” the author, Lissa Rankin MD, talks from her own experience of the fear and stress that resulted in her giving up her medical practice. While telling her story, and those of many others, she discusses how fear affects us and provides exercises to help find our fears. Also, she provides solutions to cultivate the courage to really embrace life.
We believe that we can THINK ourselves out of fear. But as we eventually learn that thinking doesn’t really help in the long term. We usually end up even more stressed and even less trusting of our hearts than ever before.
But what if we could make that leap and trust that everything is already okay and that we are already good enough? Would we be happier? You bet!